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I met my wife just over 6 years ago and it was in a bar in downtown Nashville.

I was in my mid to  late thirties when I met her. I thought at that time I would never find love and just relegated myself to a confirmed bachelor the rest of my life. OH my how things can really change. Now we have two beautiful daughters and we both are still madly in love with each other.

Its funny how things can work out that way for you. During my marriage,  I have also gone on to create several blogs that interest me including one for effective weight loss and how to speak spanish !

Anyway, I know many of  my friends have  tried to find love  but just were unsuccessful in finding their true soul mate. These are friends in their late fifties and early sixties. It is sure not easy, but I think if one wants to have a full committed relationship it can be accomplished in one way or the other !

First of all, you have to get yourself out there and be vulnerable. I am talking about putting all your self doubts and questions about yourself on hold. You cannot be afraid of failure. If one relationship does not work out then there will be always a potential one around the corner. So in some ways it can be looked at as a numbers game.

Secondly, you need to exhaust all avenues in pursuing love. My brother who is 52 years old  does not have anyone. No love , never married, no kids etc..etc… !!  The main reason he has no one is that he never pursued love at Church, at a Dating service, at Bars, at singles meeting etc..etc.. He hasn’t done any of this. Thus he will probably be alone the rest of his Life. So sad but easily avoidable !!

If you have this attitude you will NEVER find that soul mate !! PERIOD !!

So you folks looking for Love and haven’t found it , keep trying and put yourself and your spirit out there. Be vulnerable and you will be surprised that you just might find the person who you spend the rest of your Life with !! 

Okay all you women out there. I am the owner of DatingandLove4U.com and I know how hard it is to figure out what guys want. I know because I am a guy myself, and I will have to admit  we can be some pretty tough creatures to figure out.

But here are some sure signs that a guy is really in to you.

-  If you find him constantly staring at you then its pretty safe to say that he is interested. Guys stare at a woman for a reason and that is because he wants to get to know her.

- If you are in a setting with other people around and a guy cracks jokes about you in front of them and gives you a hard time then chances are he is interested in you. I dont know why girls,  but us guys love to crack jokes around the women we find attractive. It is just part of the mating ritual I guess !

- If you notice a guy sweating around you when he talks at any length of time with you then chances are he likes you.  A guys blood pressure goes up around women he likes  and also  other body functions increase too like perspiration !

- A guy who fumbles with his words or is at a loss for them when he is around you  more than likely is interested in you.

- Blatantly speaking if a guy puts his hand on your shoulder or back then he really likes you. Now as a women you need to tell him this is not appropritae if you feel uneasy when this occurs. But if it is not somethng that bothers you then take it as an indication he digs you a whole lot.

Like I said men can be hard to figure out. But if he likes you he will definitely exhibit one of these characteristics  that have been mentioned above.

I know most people will automatically say that going to Church and being an active part of the Congregation is by far a better place to meet someone than a place like  a Bar.

Of course in many cases you might be right. But I can tell you that I have many friends and family members who are happily married to people they met out on the town at a dance club or Bar. I have seen this countless times. And incidentally I met my beautiful wife at a honky tonk bar in Nashville !!    And we have been married for 3 yeas and have two beautiful kids now.

I also know many people who have met their better half at Church and other type of religious functions.

I think my point here in this Post is this…..Please do NOT write off different places and unorthodox places to meet people. Sure, sometimes Bars are not the best place to meet people.  But the fact is people have been falling in love with each other after meeting initially in a Bar.

We are all human beings and although there are some people who go to Bars for a one night stand there are many who dont.

And conversely do not write off going to a Church as a good place  to meet people. Some think of a Church as being full of  ‘ snobby better than thou’  type of people. But once again just remember that people are people and there are all types of people  who attend Chuirch.  So dont rule out this place to meet someone.

So you ask me which is a better place to potentially meet that special someone in your Life ??  Well, there is no best place really. The fact is where there are people, there will be the possibility of meeting someone who could totally turn your Life upside down for the best.

Just keep an open mind and keep your eye open !! 

Wow, these days its hard to find people who have been married 20 years straight let alone over 50 years. Well, my parents just celebrated 53 years in June. And it is amazing to see two people sharing their lives with Love and Commitment like they do.

Dont get me wrong when I was a young boy I remember my parents had some pretty intense fights and arguments. They had a few up and downs just like everybody else. But they always reconciled , and I think the most important ingredient that has kept their Marriage thriving (and many others for that matter) is keeping a strong line of communication open.

Being able to communicate with your significant other is paramount , and in the long run it will determine if your relationshipwill  last or not. That is just the bottom line !

I see so many couples who get into fights and arguments and they NEVER resolve that particular dispute. They end up coming back together,  but they never completly resolve the issue they were arguing over. So what happens in this case ? Well, resentment swells up inside the individuals  but they bury it and over time it just festers inside them. This puts a strain on the relationship and will no doubt cause problems down the road.

My wife and I have arguments and disagreements on a regular basis. But we rarely go to bed without resolving the issues we were arguing over.

Also I think it is important that at least one person should be the so called ‘hero’ in the relationship when hard times do occur. This is something that Dr. Phil has mentioned and it makes sense. When two people in a relationship start to really get heated over an issue its important that at least one person reigns sensibility back in and keep a cool head. That person should realize that it is not worth it to get all heated up and that the relationship is more important than that. Remeber cool heads always prevail.

Anyway, I think everyone can take a lesson from my parents. And realize there will be tough times in any relationship. But that a  belief that the relationship and love you have for your significant other will ALWAYS outweigh any issues that may arise between the two of you !! 

Hey guys. Me, wifey, and the kids are heading into vacation mode here in the next few days. I am looking forward to it. We just celebrated our 3rd anniversary a few weeks ago.  Time really flies !!

Anyway, I get asked alot on how I met my wife. So you really want to know ?? Well the fact is  I met my wife 5 years ago at get this…….. a BAR !! Thats right one of those places that are supposed to be no good for nothing except getting drunk at and hooking up for one night stands !!

I think many people would be surprise on how many human beings have met their spouses at Bars. The number is probably higher than you think.

And this is really an important point that I have talked about  in the past  on this Blog and that everyone should make note of. That is do not write off someone just because you met them at a place that is historically frowned upon to meet people…….like Bars and Clubs !!   Some of the happiest Marriages have been initially one night stands that turned into  serious relationships.

Now dont get me wrong. I think that there may be other places that could be better options than meeting people  bars. Places like Church, via friends, via family, dating services etc.. But just remember to all you single people. When you go to a singles bar and think that there are NO quality people there , what does that say about you ?? In other wards there can and often is quality people at these places just like you !! So dont be so quick to write off people at that saturday night honky tonk.

You just might be writing off your future wife or husband. 

Just something to think about.

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Hey guys, just got back from eating out at a really nice restaraunt. We had the two kids with us and we didnt even plan to make an evening of it. We went to Target and Kohls to get some diapers and clothes for our daughters. Its our 3rd Wedding anniversary today. I bought my Wife 3 dozen White Roses delivered to our doorstep. She was totally thrilled. We got married in Maui in April 2007.

Anyway, we decided coming back that we would stop off at a local restaraunt at the last minute. Well, the girls were so cooperative throughout the whole meal. We stayed over an hour. I had a  basket of hot , delicious hot wings for an appetizer. My Wife had a house salad for her appetizer. For the main course I had 9oz of grilled sirloin steak along with a baked potato and vegetable medley. It was really. really good. My wife had peppercorn steak and veggies. She loved it too.

We had great conversation and Kenzie our oldest daughter seemed to enjoy hersewlf eating her red apple. We loved it !! 

You know what guys ?? I forgot how simple things like taking your partner or date out to eat can be so fulfilling. It can set a great mood between two people. So when you get a chance take a date or loved one out to a decent restaraunt and just enjoy yourselves.

I will just leave you with this…………….Please guys whatever you do in Life ALWAYS take time to smell the roses and just enjoy everyday you have on this Earth.

I found that out tonight. How simple things can really add to your Life. Being with Family or people you care about is really the most important thing in Life. Thats what Life is all about.

Carpe Diem, folks !!