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I met my wife just over 6 years ago and it was in a bar in downtown Nashville.

I was in my mid to  late thirties when I met her. I thought at that time I would never find love and just relegated myself to a confirmed bachelor the rest of my life. OH my how things can really change. Now we have two beautiful daughters and we both are still madly in love with each other.

Its funny how things can work out that way for you. During my marriage,  I have also gone on to create several blogs that interest me including one for effective weight loss and how to speak spanish !

Anyway, I know many of  my friends have  tried to find love  but just were unsuccessful in finding their true soul mate. These are friends in their late fifties and early sixties. It is sure not easy, but I think if one wants to have a full committed relationship it can be accomplished in one way or the other !

First of all, you have to get yourself out there and be vulnerable. I am talking about putting all your self doubts and questions about yourself on hold. You cannot be afraid of failure. If one relationship does not work out then there will be always a potential one around the corner. So in some ways it can be looked at as a numbers game.

Secondly, you need to exhaust all avenues in pursuing love. My brother who is 52 years old  does not have anyone. No love , never married, no kids etc..etc… !!  The main reason he has no one is that he never pursued love at Church, at a Dating service, at Bars, at singles meeting etc..etc.. He hasn’t done any of this. Thus he will probably be alone the rest of his Life. So sad but easily avoidable !!

If you have this attitude you will NEVER find that soul mate !! PERIOD !!

So you folks looking for Love and haven’t found it , keep trying and put yourself and your spirit out there. Be vulnerable and you will be surprised that you just might find the person who you spend the rest of your Life with !! 

Okay all you women out there. I am the owner of DatingandLove4U.com and I know how hard it is to figure out what guys want. I know because I am a guy myself, and I will have to admit  we can be some pretty tough creatures to figure out.

But here are some sure signs that a guy is really in to you.

-  If you find him constantly staring at you then its pretty safe to say that he is interested. Guys stare at a woman for a reason and that is because he wants to get to know her.

- If you are in a setting with other people around and a guy cracks jokes about you in front of them and gives you a hard time then chances are he is interested in you. I dont know why girls,  but us guys love to crack jokes around the women we find attractive. It is just part of the mating ritual I guess !

- If you notice a guy sweating around you when he talks at any length of time with you then chances are he likes you.  A guys blood pressure goes up around women he likes  and also  other body functions increase too like perspiration !

- A guy who fumbles with his words or is at a loss for them when he is around you  more than likely is interested in you.

- Blatantly speaking if a guy puts his hand on your shoulder or back then he really likes you. Now as a women you need to tell him this is not appropritae if you feel uneasy when this occurs. But if it is not somethng that bothers you then take it as an indication he digs you a whole lot.

Like I said men can be hard to figure out. But if he likes you he will definitely exhibit one of these characteristics  that have been mentioned above.

I know most people will automatically say that going to Church and being an active part of the Congregation is by far a better place to meet someone than a place like  a Bar.

Of course in many cases you might be right. But I can tell you that I have many friends and family members who are happily married to people they met out on the town at a dance club or Bar. I have seen this countless times. And incidentally I met my beautiful wife at a honky tonk bar in Nashville !!    And we have been married for 3 yeas and have two beautiful kids now.

I also know many people who have met their better half at Church and other type of religious functions.

I think my point here in this Post is this…..Please do NOT write off different places and unorthodox places to meet people. Sure, sometimes Bars are not the best place to meet people.  But the fact is people have been falling in love with each other after meeting initially in a Bar.

We are all human beings and although there are some people who go to Bars for a one night stand there are many who dont.

And conversely do not write off going to a Church as a good place  to meet people. Some think of a Church as being full of  ‘ snobby better than thou’  type of people. But once again just remember that people are people and there are all types of people  who attend Chuirch.  So dont rule out this place to meet someone.

So you ask me which is a better place to potentially meet that special someone in your Life ??  Well, there is no best place really. The fact is where there are people, there will be the possibility of meeting someone who could totally turn your Life upside down for the best.

Just keep an open mind and keep your eye open !!