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Dating people you find online and offline can be two totally different things with two different dynamics.

With Online Dating you can never quite be sure who you are talking with or who  that person really is or even what he or she really looks like on the other end. There will be a lot of people who put up fake photos to try to portray someone they are not !!  Sometimes it can be a very frustrating process to do.

There are some dating sites that are quite legit and will weed out these bad apples . This along with the convenience are about the only two reasons why dating online can be worth it. But strange as it seems, I have had a couple of co-workers and friends who eventually stayed together after first meeting them online. But I had many other friends who experienced less than favorable outcomes with online dating.

I truly think when you are trying to find that soul mate or even just someone to hang out with then meeting them in person is the best way to do it. There are plenty of ways to meet people like this.  From Grocery stores to Church functions to baseball games……. the options seem to be almost endless.

As many of you know I met my Wife at a Honky Tonk Bar in Nashville over some beers. Now we are celebrating our 5 th year wedding Anniversary  in April and have two beautiful children to be thankful for.

The fact of the matter is no matter how far our technology has gotten us in the 21st century the fact remains the same…………..sometimes just reaching and meeting a person face to face for the first time is the best way to meet new people !! Not with a mouse 

I did not start this blog to spill out a bunch of nonsense crap that wouldn’t help a fly!!  No, I had a vision for this blog and that is to use some of my own knowledge and experiences to maybe help a few of you find more dates and maybe just maybe find you that special soul mate for Life. !

Its 2012 and it is an exciting time right now. There is so much potential for each and everyone of you to meet more people and meet more potential lovers.Now  I am not talking about the promiscious type of loving but the actual love of your life.

I think one of the toughest things to realize especially in heterosexual relationships is that when two people come together it can be such a huge challenge. For instance, when two people get married all of the sudden they are committing their lives to another person. The degree of compromise can be overwhelming and many times this can lead to that BIG D !! And thats not D for Dallas !!

When people get in a serious relationship they need to learn that they will NOT have it their way all the time every time . This is just not realistic.

Here is a way that I learned awhile back that can keep your relationship   going strong and healthy :  Give 10% more than you think you should give to the relationship and accept 10% less than you feel like you deserve in the relationship. If each person can do this and really embrace this concept  then you will be two happy campers and there is no question about it. A very simple concept !!

So I leave you with that thought as you go into this great year of 2012. Sometimes its not what you receive in the relationship, its what you give.

Happy New Year,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             Robert Andrew

Hey guys, just wanted to say have a happy holiday. I will be going out of town for the next two weeks to be with relatives. And I am looking forward to a spanking 2012 as I will be adding a lot of new things to this Website. So come on back frequently to check it out.

I meantime, keep putting yourselves out there for meeting new people. Especially around this time of year ! There is a lot of warm and receptive  hearts with holiday cheer so that makes it a perfect time to ask out that single girl or guy for a date. And who knows it could end up in a serious relationship. Be confident of yourself and keep your head up high and shoulders lifted upward.

Once again ho,ho,ho and to those that do not celebrate the holidays be sure you have a good one too.

Sincerely,
Robert Andrew

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Lets make no doubt about it but the holiday season is a time for good cheer. And with that comes the possibility of meeting new people and the chance to fall in love. It is really a time when people have hopes for a bright tomorrow and there is a sense of Love in the air This happens to couples who have been married for over 50 years as  well as folks who are single and  still looking for someone.

So how do you really find that special someone ? Well, for one thing above anything else you have to do is you have put yourself out there !! I have so many  friends well into their fifties who are still alone and never met that special mate. Why ?? Because they did not put themselves out there enough to catch the right fish. They gave up way before they should have. And fizzled out much like a little star.

So to get away from being like this you need to go to things  like mixers, date agencies, clubs, church functions,  yes even bars, grocery stores etc..etc… In other wards you have to give the impression to others that you have a pulse and are open minded to having a relationship.

Lets dont make this hard folks. There is no reason why everyone on this planet cannot have that special someone in their Life.

Happy Holidays,

Robert Andrew

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I met my wife just over 6 years ago and it was in a bar in downtown Nashville.

I was in my mid to  late thirties when I met her. I thought at that time I would never find love and just relegated myself to a confirmed bachelor the rest of my life. OH my how things can really change. Now we have two beautiful daughters and we both are still madly in love with each other.

Its funny how things can work out that way for you. During my marriage,  I have also gone on to create several blogs that interest me including one for effective weight loss and how to speak spanish !

Anyway, I know many of  my friends have  tried to find love  but just were unsuccessful in finding their true soul mate. These are friends in their late fifties and early sixties. It is sure not easy, but I think if one wants to have a full committed relationship it can be accomplished in one way or the other !

First of all, you have to get yourself out there and be vulnerable. I am talking about putting all your self doubts and questions about yourself on hold. You cannot be afraid of failure. If one relationship does not work out then there will be always a potential one around the corner. So in some ways it can be looked at as a numbers game.

Secondly, you need to exhaust all avenues in pursuing love. My brother who is 52 years old  does not have anyone. No love , never married, no kids etc..etc… !!  The main reason he has no one is that he never pursued love at Church, at a Dating service, at Bars, at singles meeting etc..etc.. He hasn’t done any of this. Thus he will probably be alone the rest of his Life. So sad but easily avoidable !!

If you have this attitude you will NEVER find that soul mate !! PERIOD !!

So you folks looking for Love and haven’t found it , keep trying and put yourself and your spirit out there. Be vulnerable and you will be surprised that you just might find the person who you spend the rest of your Life with !! 

Well, we are well into 2011 , and I wrote a Post at the end of December describing a number of ways to date people and maybe fall in Love with someone.

I hope some of you tried some of those ways like going to a singles program at Church or a Matchmaking Company. As we said earlier those can be really good places to find romance and love

Another good thing you must do, and I know many of us take it for granted, is having good hygeine and dressing for success.

I have known a couple of buddies of mine who literally wore cut of blue jeans and a tank top to their first date. Needless to say  they didn’t get a second date. Wearing Khakis, a Polo shirt and loafers will NEVER go out of style. If you want to scale it down a little bit you can with some cowboy boots , finally pressed wranglers , and a wrangler denim shirt to go with it.

Remember that good  hygeine  is so important in any romantic situation. Always  brush your teeth including gums and tongue as well as taking a thorough shower and and a good scrubbing of the face with exfoliating gel. Breath mints are also recommended.

And one last thing , particular to you guys out there. Be on time if you are picking up your date. Don’t make her wait. And if you are both meeting at a designated area then you both need to punctual.                                            No exceptions !

Anyway, hope these simple things make it easier for  you in the dating and love game. Its seems commonsense but you would be surprised how many people do not do them !!

Until next time

Wow, I cant believe New Years is almost here. Many of you out there will unfortunately be spending it alone and I can feel for you because I was in the same boat for many years myself.

But remember with the new year comes a new slate where you can start fresh and revived. The main thing I would suggest to many of  you looking for love or looking to have more dating success is where you are looking. Now there is nothing wrong with going out to a club or watering hole and relaxing and having a good time. But usually these kind of atmospheres offer casual relationships. Which there is nothing wrong with if thats what you want. A matter of fact that is precisely how I met my wife which was at a honky tonk bar in Nashville !

But I think there are other places to meet that special someone in 2011. Places like Church gatherings or school functions can be a good start. Meeting people through friends or family members is another idea I will throw at you. Hopefully they know you well enough to set you up with a person who you are compatible with. Many people I know have met their Life partners exactly this way.

Also, dont rule out dating agencies and matchmakers. They do a lot of leg work to find people who have similar interests to you. And people have been having success with them for years now.

Bottom line for 2011 dont rule out any one way in meeting that special somebody. You might just end up like me and find your true love on the dance floor with a beer in one hand and a cigarette in the other !!

Okay all you women out there. I am the owner of DatingandLove4U.com and I know how hard it is to figure out what guys want. I know because I am a guy myself, and I will have to admit  we can be some pretty tough creatures to figure out.

But here are some sure signs that a guy is really in to you.

-  If you find him constantly staring at you then its pretty safe to say that he is interested. Guys stare at a woman for a reason and that is because he wants to get to know her.

- If you are in a setting with other people around and a guy cracks jokes about you in front of them and gives you a hard time then chances are he is interested in you. I dont know why girls,  but us guys love to crack jokes around the women we find attractive. It is just part of the mating ritual I guess !

- If you notice a guy sweating around you when he talks at any length of time with you then chances are he likes you.  A guys blood pressure goes up around women he likes  and also  other body functions increase too like perspiration !

- A guy who fumbles with his words or is at a loss for them when he is around you  more than likely is interested in you.

- Blatantly speaking if a guy puts his hand on your shoulder or back then he really likes you. Now as a women you need to tell him this is not appropritae if you feel uneasy when this occurs. But if it is not somethng that bothers you then take it as an indication he digs you a whole lot.

Like I said men can be hard to figure out. But if he likes you he will definitely exhibit one of these characteristics  that have been mentioned above.

I know most people will automatically say that going to Church and being an active part of the Congregation is by far a better place to meet someone than a place like  a Bar.

Of course in many cases you might be right. But I can tell you that I have many friends and family members who are happily married to people they met out on the town at a dance club or Bar. I have seen this countless times. And incidentally I met my beautiful wife at a honky tonk bar in Nashville !!    And we have been married for 3 yeas and have two beautiful kids now.

I also know many people who have met their better half at Church and other type of religious functions.

I think my point here in this Post is this…..Please do NOT write off different places and unorthodox places to meet people. Sure, sometimes Bars are not the best place to meet people.  But the fact is people have been falling in love with each other after meeting initially in a Bar.

We are all human beings and although there are some people who go to Bars for a one night stand there are many who dont.

And conversely do not write off going to a Church as a good place  to meet people. Some think of a Church as being full of  ‘ snobby better than thou’  type of people. But once again just remember that people are people and there are all types of people  who attend Chuirch.  So dont rule out this place to meet someone.

So you ask me which is a better place to potentially meet that special someone in your Life ??  Well, there is no best place really. The fact is where there are people, there will be the possibility of meeting someone who could totally turn your Life upside down for the best.

Just keep an open mind and keep your eye open !! 

Wow, these days its hard to find people who have been married 20 years straight let alone over 50 years. Well, my parents just celebrated 53 years in June. And it is amazing to see two people sharing their lives with Love and Commitment like they do.

Dont get me wrong when I was a young boy I remember my parents had some pretty intense fights and arguments. They had a few up and downs just like everybody else. But they always reconciled , and I think the most important ingredient that has kept their Marriage thriving (and many others for that matter) is keeping a strong line of communication open.

Being able to communicate with your significant other is paramount , and in the long run it will determine if your relationshipwill  last or not. That is just the bottom line !

I see so many couples who get into fights and arguments and they NEVER resolve that particular dispute. They end up coming back together,  but they never completly resolve the issue they were arguing over. So what happens in this case ? Well, resentment swells up inside the individuals  but they bury it and over time it just festers inside them. This puts a strain on the relationship and will no doubt cause problems down the road.

My wife and I have arguments and disagreements on a regular basis. But we rarely go to bed without resolving the issues we were arguing over.

Also I think it is important that at least one person should be the so called ‘hero’ in the relationship when hard times do occur. This is something that Dr. Phil has mentioned and it makes sense. When two people in a relationship start to really get heated over an issue its important that at least one person reigns sensibility back in and keep a cool head. That person should realize that it is not worth it to get all heated up and that the relationship is more important than that. Remeber cool heads always prevail.

Anyway, I think everyone can take a lesson from my parents. And realize there will be tough times in any relationship. But that a  belief that the relationship and love you have for your significant other will ALWAYS outweigh any issues that may arise between the two of you !!