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I did not start this blog to spill out a bunch of nonsense crap that wouldn’t help a fly!!  No, I had a vision for this blog and that is to use some of my own knowledge and experiences to maybe help a few of you find more dates and maybe just maybe find you that special soul mate for Life. !

Its 2012 and it is an exciting time right now. There is so much potential for each and everyone of you to meet more people and meet more potential lovers.Now  I am not talking about the promiscious type of loving but the actual love of your life.

I think one of the toughest things to realize especially in heterosexual relationships is that when two people come together it can be such a huge challenge. For instance, when two people get married all of the sudden they are committing their lives to another person. The degree of compromise can be overwhelming and many times this can lead to that BIG D !! And thats not D for Dallas !!

When people get in a serious relationship they need to learn that they will NOT have it their way all the time every time . This is just not realistic.

Here is a way that I learned awhile back that can keep your relationship   going strong and healthy :  Give 10% more than you think you should give to the relationship and accept 10% less than you feel like you deserve in the relationship. If each person can do this and really embrace this concept  then you will be two happy campers and there is no question about it. A very simple concept !!

So I leave you with that thought as you go into this great year of 2012. Sometimes its not what you receive in the relationship, its what you give.

Happy New Year,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             Robert Andrew

Hey guys, just wanted to say have a happy holiday. I will be going out of town for the next two weeks to be with relatives. And I am looking forward to a spanking 2012 as I will be adding a lot of new things to this Website. So come on back frequently to check it out.

I meantime, keep putting yourselves out there for meeting new people. Especially around this time of year ! There is a lot of warm and receptive  hearts with holiday cheer so that makes it a perfect time to ask out that single girl or guy for a date. And who knows it could end up in a serious relationship. Be confident of yourself and keep your head up high and shoulders lifted upward.

Once again ho,ho,ho and to those that do not celebrate the holidays be sure you have a good one too.

Sincerely,
Robert Andrew

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Lets make no doubt about it but the holiday season is a time for good cheer. And with that comes the possibility of meeting new people and the chance to fall in love. It is really a time when people have hopes for a bright tomorrow and there is a sense of Love in the air This happens to couples who have been married for over 50 years as  well as folks who are single and  still looking for someone.

So how do you really find that special someone ? Well, for one thing above anything else you have to do is you have put yourself out there !! I have so many  friends well into their fifties who are still alone and never met that special mate. Why ?? Because they did not put themselves out there enough to catch the right fish. They gave up way before they should have. And fizzled out much like a little star.

So to get away from being like this you need to go to things  like mixers, date agencies, clubs, church functions,  yes even bars, grocery stores etc..etc… In other wards you have to give the impression to others that you have a pulse and are open minded to having a relationship.

Lets dont make this hard folks. There is no reason why everyone on this planet cannot have that special someone in their Life.

Happy Holidays,

Robert Andrew

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I met my wife just over 6 years ago and it was in a bar in downtown Nashville.

I was in my mid to  late thirties when I met her. I thought at that time I would never find love and just relegated myself to a confirmed bachelor the rest of my life. OH my how things can really change. Now we have two beautiful daughters and we both are still madly in love with each other.

Its funny how things can work out that way for you. During my marriage,  I have also gone on to create several blogs that interest me including one for effective weight loss and how to speak spanish !

Anyway, I know many of  my friends have  tried to find love  but just were unsuccessful in finding their true soul mate. These are friends in their late fifties and early sixties. It is sure not easy, but I think if one wants to have a full committed relationship it can be accomplished in one way or the other !

First of all, you have to get yourself out there and be vulnerable. I am talking about putting all your self doubts and questions about yourself on hold. You cannot be afraid of failure. If one relationship does not work out then there will be always a potential one around the corner. So in some ways it can be looked at as a numbers game.

Secondly, you need to exhaust all avenues in pursuing love. My brother who is 52 years old  does not have anyone. No love , never married, no kids etc..etc… !!  The main reason he has no one is that he never pursued love at Church, at a Dating service, at Bars, at singles meeting etc..etc.. He hasn’t done any of this. Thus he will probably be alone the rest of his Life. So sad but easily avoidable !!

If you have this attitude you will NEVER find that soul mate !! PERIOD !!

So you folks looking for Love and haven’t found it , keep trying and put yourself and your spirit out there. Be vulnerable and you will be surprised that you just might find the person who you spend the rest of your Life with !! 

Well, we are well into 2011 , and I wrote a Post at the end of December describing a number of ways to date people and maybe fall in Love with someone.

I hope some of you tried some of those ways like going to a singles program at Church or a Matchmaking Company. As we said earlier those can be really good places to find romance and love

Another good thing you must do, and I know many of us take it for granted, is having good hygeine and dressing for success.

I have known a couple of buddies of mine who literally wore cut of blue jeans and a tank top to their first date. Needless to say  they didn’t get a second date. Wearing Khakis, a Polo shirt and loafers will NEVER go out of style. If you want to scale it down a little bit you can with some cowboy boots , finally pressed wranglers , and a wrangler denim shirt to go with it.

Remember that good  hygeine  is so important in any romantic situation. Always  brush your teeth including gums and tongue as well as taking a thorough shower and and a good scrubbing of the face with exfoliating gel. Breath mints are also recommended.

And one last thing , particular to you guys out there. Be on time if you are picking up your date. Don’t make her wait. And if you are both meeting at a designated area then you both need to punctual.                                            No exceptions !

Anyway, hope these simple things make it easier for  you in the dating and love game. Its seems commonsense but you would be surprised how many people do not do them !!

Until next time

Wow, I cant believe New Years is almost here. Many of you out there will unfortunately be spending it alone and I can feel for you because I was in the same boat for many years myself.

But remember with the new year comes a new slate where you can start fresh and revived. The main thing I would suggest to many of  you looking for love or looking to have more dating success is where you are looking. Now there is nothing wrong with going out to a club or watering hole and relaxing and having a good time. But usually these kind of atmospheres offer casual relationships. Which there is nothing wrong with if thats what you want. A matter of fact that is precisely how I met my wife which was at a honky tonk bar in Nashville !

But I think there are other places to meet that special someone in 2011. Places like Church gatherings or school functions can be a good start. Meeting people through friends or family members is another idea I will throw at you. Hopefully they know you well enough to set you up with a person who you are compatible with. Many people I know have met their Life partners exactly this way.

Also, dont rule out dating agencies and matchmakers. They do a lot of leg work to find people who have similar interests to you. And people have been having success with them for years now.

Bottom line for 2011 dont rule out any one way in meeting that special somebody. You might just end up like me and find your true love on the dance floor with a beer in one hand and a cigarette in the other !!

How can I make him love me forever? If you’ve asked this question recently you’re in good company. We’ve all wondered about this at some point. We’re involved with a wonderful man who we believe is our one true love. All we really wish for is the reassurance that he’ll always be as crazy about us as he is now. It’s difficult if you’re constantly worried that today will be the day when his feelings will change and the relationship will lose its passion and die. If you want your man to love you always, you need to be proactive about keeping his interest high. You can make yourself utterly irresistible to him if you understand exactly how to appeal to his heart and mind.

One way to make him love you forever is to never lose yourself in the relationship. Many well intentioned women do this and almost always it spells the end of the love and the strong connection. Your man needs and wants to know that you adore him but he also wants you to have your own interests and life. The more dynamic you are, the more he will love you. This is one of the reasons many marriages fail. Both partners become a shell of themselves after the marriage. They give up their own pursuits and passions in favor of spending all their time together. He may find you much more appealing if he has to sneak in time here and there to be with you. If your life is busy and full, he’ll love knowing that you make time for him as opposed to clearing your entire schedule and life for him. Keep your identity when you’re in a relationship. It’s vitally important to keeping the love alive and thriving.

Also, don’t focus on each and every small problem in the relationship. Women who do this are typically silently labeled as drama queens by their men. Their man pulls away out of fear that his actions will always be ridiculed. Pick your battles carefully and let small things slide. Men love women like this. They love knowing that they will be accepted flaws and all and that the woman the love isn’t expecting them to completely change for her.

Always be accepting of the other people in his life if you want him to love you forever. It’s not always possible to get along with every friend he has or every member of his family. Although you may expect or want him to take your side if there’s tension between you and someone else he loves, secretly he may resent you for putting him in that position. Work very hard at being respectful to everyone he cares for. He’ll love you more for it.

Okay all you women out there. I am the owner of DatingandLove4U.com and I know how hard it is to figure out what guys want. I know because I am a guy myself, and I will have to admit  we can be some pretty tough creatures to figure out.

But here are some sure signs that a guy is really in to you.

-  If you find him constantly staring at you then its pretty safe to say that he is interested. Guys stare at a woman for a reason and that is because he wants to get to know her.

- If you are in a setting with other people around and a guy cracks jokes about you in front of them and gives you a hard time then chances are he is interested in you. I dont know why girls,  but us guys love to crack jokes around the women we find attractive. It is just part of the mating ritual I guess !

- If you notice a guy sweating around you when he talks at any length of time with you then chances are he likes you.  A guys blood pressure goes up around women he likes  and also  other body functions increase too like perspiration !

- A guy who fumbles with his words or is at a loss for them when he is around you  more than likely is interested in you.

- Blatantly speaking if a guy puts his hand on your shoulder or back then he really likes you. Now as a women you need to tell him this is not appropritae if you feel uneasy when this occurs. But if it is not somethng that bothers you then take it as an indication he digs you a whole lot.

Like I said men can be hard to figure out. But if he likes you he will definitely exhibit one of these characteristics  that have been mentioned above.

When a relationship ends, especially if you’re not the one who ended it, how to get over someone becomes very important.  It’s not always easy to get over a person you’ve been with, though.  If you’ve been with that person for a very long time it’s even harder. It might be pretty easy to get over a relationship that’s lasted 3 months.  But if you’ve been with someone for 3 years, it’s hard to get over that person at all, let alone get over them quickly.  Fortunately, there are some things you can do to speed up the process.

LEARN HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX BACK IN ONE WEEK

When you’re wondering how to get over someone, sit in a chair in your living room or bedroom, wherever there’s a very strong sense of the other person.  Remove anything that reminds you of that person a great deal.  This isn’t always easy to do, but every little bit helps.  If you’ve bought a dog together, for instance, of course you won’t want to get rid of the dog.  But anything your ex bought for you that’s on display like a knick-knack or something hanging on the wall would be a good thing to remove for a while.

If you have lots of things that will remind you of your ex, you’re probably wondering how to get over someone without making your rooms completely bare. But even if you picked out practically everything together, you don’t have to remove everything to make this work. Just choose items that have particularly strong memories. 

Maybe you picked out the couch together, but it’s one of the throw pillows that you bought or the figurine on the end table he or she gave you as a gift that seems to make you feel sad when you look at it.  Remove those items and store them for a while, just to make things easier on you.

LEARN HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX BACK IN ONE WEEK

If you’re having a really hard time and feel that you can handle it, you can think of all your ex’s bad qualities.  Of all the methods of how to get over someone, this is the one where you actually think of your ex the most, so if just the very thought of them brings you to tears you might not be ready for this step. Think of the things you disliked the most about them.  If you can’t thing of anything, just move on.  But most of us can come up with a long list of things we dislike about someone, especially if they were the ones to end the relationship.

A popular method of how to get over someone is to simply start dating again.  Many people balk at this idea—they think they still love the ex and aren’t ready.  You can do this even if you’re still in love with your ex. No one says you have to fall in love anytime soon.  But dating or even going out with friends isn’t just how to get over someone, it’s how to keep from feeling sorry for yourself while you try.

The general consensus as to why men and women cheat is based on a lack of sexual satisfaction. An online opinion poll suggests some elements that lead to cheating go beyond the bedroom.

Around 10% of married women will jump the fence for no definitive reason, men’s desire to cheat can often be attributed to the fact that they are biologically polygamous. Regardless of the state of personal matters at home, vanity or insecurity issues have nothing to do with why many men and women cheat. We can draw the comparison with someone who is dependant on substances like alcohol or drugs where there is a dependency issue that requires a decision whether to cross the line or not. For some of us, it simply comes down to biology.

Thankfully, not all of us are destined to cheat and lead double lives. There isn’t usually a particular reason that sends us into the arms of another, yet it’s the gradual build up of seemingly insignificant complacencies that cause the bubble to burst.

Commitment, marriage, joint financial arrangements and loss of self identity can all lead to complacency. When a couple buries themselves in a stressful environment, they forget about each other. A pattern of self survival becomes evident and the once cherished union becomes two different worlds.

Relationships that lack maintenance and communication are prime candidates for infidelity. When women stop receiving special attention from their partner, it’s difficult for her to be all perky and sexy when her self confidence is shot. Once a relationship reaches this declining level the sex usually declines as well and men will often seek a new sex partner blaming his partners low sex drive as opposed to the reasons that caused the relationship to break down in the first place.

For some men though, nothing is ever enough to keep them loyal, with one of the respondents offering this thought. “Even the best dish becomes boring if you have it every day”

Both genders cheat, but it’s how you handle being cheated on that matters. Most people will fly into an angry rage with the thought of revenge ringing loudly. Another respondent tells us she exacted revenge on her cheating boyfriend using an unconventional and CLEVER approach by calling an abroad online dating recorded message service using his mobile phone running up a $6000 bill – ouch.

People cheat because they have no real concept of the importance of love. Their main focus in life is indulging in core base like animal pleasure, becoming increasingly immoral, overwrought and lose touch with the power to stand by the deep conceptions of the soul.

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